Extended family visits & key family contact in care home
I propose an extension of the current care home visiting (which is widely varied between different councils/care providers). There have been so many negative stories about how loved ones have deteriorated and even passed away after all family contact was removed. Window visiting was even limited and families were turned away without any notice.
Obviously these care settings are 'home' for their residents and I therefore fully understand the need to keep them as safe as possible in line with the covid guidelines. I also understand the need for restrictions for visiting but I am really struggling to question whether the precautions and safety measures outweigh the physical and mental damage it is causing to both residents and their families.
I know, both on a personal level and from talking to others in similar situation that they have noticed a huge physical/cognitive decline in their relatives since lock down started in March. However, my concern is also for the relatives that are unable to physically visit/see their loved ones but simply see them fading away through occasional social media posts or second hand from other family members and how damaging this is for their mental health.
Those with any level of capacity were not asked what they wanted to happen but simply told that their families were no longer allowed in & those without capacity were left confused and upset due a change in routine and a lack of physical contact - either way seems inhumane and a complete lack of rights for elderly people.
I feel this needs changed before more families have to suffer the guilt/heartbroken and confused that so many already have.I believe extended families (including children) should be allowed to visit, even through the window, to help our loved ones understand that they have not been neglected. This generation deserve more than to die of heartbreak and loneliness.
Obviously these care settings are 'home' for their residents and I therefore fully understand the need to keep them as safe as possible in line with the covid guidelines. I also understand the need for restrictions for visiting but I am really struggling to question whether the precautions and safety measures outweigh the physical and mental damage it is causing to both residents and their families.
I know, both on a personal level and from talking to others in similar situation that they have noticed a huge physical/cognitive decline in their relatives since lock down started in March. However, my concern is also for the relatives that are unable to physically visit/see their loved ones but simply see them fading away through occasional social media posts or second hand from other family members and how damaging this is for their mental health.
Those with any level of capacity were not asked what they wanted to happen but simply told that their families were no longer allowed in & those without capacity were left confused and upset due a change in routine and a lack of physical contact - either way seems inhumane and a complete lack of rights for elderly people.
I feel this needs changed before more families have to suffer the guilt/heartbroken and confused that so many already have.I believe extended families (including children) should be allowed to visit, even through the window, to help our loved ones understand that they have not been neglected. This generation deserve more than to die of heartbreak and loneliness.
Why the contribution is important
I truly believe that the elderly generation have been treated unfairly by being completely cut off from families and friends. They have supposedly invested in technology to allow communication but the majority of this generation do not understand mobiles let alone video Phone calls. Everyone else has started getting back to normal - we can go for meals, to the shops, to work, to schools; footballers can play games & celebrities can make bubbles to allow reality TV to continue yet we can't even visit our loved ones at a distance? I work in the NHS and have heard several stories of heartbreak from families, relatives and colleagues alike. I work in an area where people are usually in for 48-72 hours and yet they are allowed a visitor for 1 hour a day. In care homes they have been locked away for 6 months and are only allowed a visitor for half an hour a week?! It needs to be changed. All these measures were put in place to help keep them safe and all that has been achieved is slightly lower numbers, a whole lot of upset, lonlieness, a generation left feeling abandoned and even dying from heartbreak. What about their rights to choose/ to be loved?
by SLawson90 on October 05, 2020 at 08:42PM
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Posted by MooritCheviot October 08, 2020 at 21:00
Remember average 'stay' (ie life expectancy!) in a nursing home is TWO YEARS. It is unlikely that a vaccine will be fully rolled out two years from March 2020.
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Posted by FiScot October 11, 2020 at 19:27
How was this assessment made? She could die tomorrow or the next day. Her human rights to choose whether to expose herself to risk are taken away. Her mental health has not been assessed. She wants to take her own life but is unable to do so. She used to stockpile her medicine to take in such a situation but now is too ill to do that. She can't hear on the phone so we have gone from daily contact to nothing. I can't even write any more on this . . . .
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